How to live intentionally

In previous years, I have to admit that I haven’t been intentional with goals I set for myself or things I wanted to go after. This year though I decided to take full control of my life and the first thing I started doing is living intentionally.

So first of all let’s define what intentional means and what it means to live an intentional life.
Google simply defines intentional as “done on purpose; deliberate”. To live an intentional life means to live a life of purpose. Intentional living means having a vision for your life and living your life according to that vision. Living life this way is important especially when you have goals you want to meet and it also prevents you from making reckless decisions which in turn has an overall positive impact on your life.

Disclaimer: I know you can’t always live a life where you never make reckless decisions (It’s just not realistic). At the end of the day we are all humans and are bound to make a few reckless decisions here and there HOWEVER the purpose of intentional living is to reduce the amount of reckless decisions you do make.

So now that we’ve defined and explained what it means to live an intentional life, let’s move forward to how to live intentionally”. I am going to touch on steps you can take to live intentionally with examples to make them easy to catch on below.

Step 1

The first thing you will need to do is decide what it is that you value or what it is that you believe as it gives you a clearer vision on who you are and what kind of steps you may need to take to get to where you want. Also it’s important during this step to define what goals you are trying to meet. Do you want to save a deposit for a house or a car?

Step 2

Start planning your steps and start changing your lifestyle to align with your beliefs and the goals you’ve set for yourself. For example, if you want to save for a house deposit you can start planning how much you’d want to save monthly and how long you’d like to save for. Also you could start finding ways to cut your expenses or start applying for better paid jobs in order to save more money!

Step 3

Surround yourself with people with similar values and also those who motivate and support you. Back to the house deposit example, you could join a facebook community or an instagram group with people who are either in the same position or have been in the same position and have been able to save enough for a deposit. This means you not only get to connect with like minded individuals but you can offer each other support and motivate one another.

Step 4

As with everything, breathe! Take a break if it’s all a bit too much and don’t let anything get the best of you. The whole point of living intentionally is to live a life where you’re able to become the best version of yourself so always remember that.

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Growing up in an African Household

I have been meaning to put out this post for a while however I wasn’t sure how to discuss certain things or navigate this topic but I am ready as ever now.

If you didn’t know already, I am an African girl – Ghanaian to be exact actually and for me growing up in an African household has been interesting to say the least. I was born and raised in Ghana and lived there for about 11 years. During my time in Ghana, I lived with my grandmother who was very very lenient. I think it was partly due to the fact that we were in a familiar environment and knew everyone in our small community. Everyone was basically family so I was allowed to do whatever I wanted within reason and I had an amazing childhood there!

When I moved to the UK with my mum though, we were in an unfamiliar territory and in an unfriendly neighbourhood with people we didn’t know. This meant that my mum was a lot stricter and being the only child made it that much worse. I couldn’t do certain things I could do before in Ghana and even though I hated it at the time, I understood her reasons.

I think in an African household, parents usually have their reasons for setting certain rules and boundaries. I remember not being allowed to go to sleepovers and I absolutely hated it at the time but now that I am older, I am very thankful I wasn’t allowed because as we all know, we live in a very scary world.
I do think though that as you get older, you have to challenge these rules by simply breaking them. You honestly have to start living your life for you. The most they can do is be upset and complain about it, but over time they’ll get tired of doing so.

What I also came to terms with as I got older was that our parents come from a different era with a completely different set of upbringing so patience is required when dealing with them. This isn’t to say that it’s okay to tolerate disrespectful or abusive behaviour. Please I am not here for that AT ALL. I think I have accepted that sometimes our views on certain matters may clash however it’s important to correct them on views they may hold that you feel could be problematic or offensive! You’d actually be surprised that when done respectfully they actually take it in (well my mum does!)

One thing I can also add is that growing up in an African household builds character especially living in the west with parents who didn’t grow up here. African parents can really be a handful but you’ve got to love them. At the end of the day parents are also humans; they do not know it all and they make mistakes too. Although I am not a parent yet, parenting seems like a whole different ball game and seems like a journey in which you learn as you go! So I’ve definitely started cutting my mum some slack if I am being honest.

Lastly is it just me or do you feel like as you have gotten older your parents have become a lot more understanding and shock you (in good ways) with certain things they now say or tolerate?!

I would honestly like to keep this conversation going! What are you guys’ thoughts and are there anything you’d like to add? What were your experiences like growing up in an African household?

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My University Advice

So at last we’re in September which means the new academic year will be starting and those still in education will be going back! When I was first accepted into university, I came across many university do’s and don’ts and I took them in but I don’t think I really really took them in. So I will be discussing here the things I want you to seriously take in before going to university! Let’s begin…

Overdraft is not free money.
You’re probably thinking “I know it’s not free money” and yes you do however it is so easy to get caught up in using that money, you will forget it’s money you’re going to have to pay back one day. I would advice to only use it if you absolutely need to and even though some banks offer up to £1500 of student overdraft, ask to reduce the limit offered if you feel you’ll be tempted to use it. When at university it’s very important to live within your means. You don’t want to get caught up in debt whilst so young! I have heard of people struggling to get out of their student overdraft even years after graduating.

Remember what you went to university for
I feel like that annoying big sister saying this but it’s very easy to get caught up in the university lifestyle. You need to remember that this is a course you’re paying for. You don’t want to be failing modules or resitting exams you could’ve passed if you had just taken the time out to do the work you needed to do. If you’re doing a course that’s demanding, I am going to need you to take this in a lot.

Get some experience
I cannot stress this enough especially as someone who has felt the full brunt of this. You don’t want to have graduated, seeking work and be told the only thing preventing you from getting your foot in the door is experience. You want to leave university skilled in all areas; academically and also with experience because without that you will struggle. I would say the best time to do an internship is the summer of second year. If you’re planning to go the corporate route, most firms take in second year summer interns who they usually offer full time work to at the end of university, upon completion of the internship. You want to be amongst those so brush up your CV and get applying to those schemes.

Use the resources you’re offered
This is something I failed to do and would encourage others not to do the same. Make full use of all the resources offered! Whether it’s going to a career’s fair organised by the university, going to networking events, speaking to the career advisers’ etc. Do your research and always be on the look out for opportunities being offered by the university. At the end of the day, you’re paying for it so take advantage.

Make new connections
Use your time at university to build new relationships and make new meaningful connections. That could be by joining different societies, making new friends etc. This is probably one of the only times you’re going to meet so many different people from so many walks of life! Also, you never know who could help you in the future so broaden your network and widen your horizon.

Lastly, enjoy your time at university
I think this is very important, especially in the first year. Do not be that person in third year regretting what could or would have been. Make sure to socialise, meet new people and go out. Just do whatever you see as enjoying yourself as long as it doesn’t conflict with your personal morals. This is a once in a lifetime experience so use your time there wisely.

As usual, I would like to end this on a positive note. For those starting university this September, I’m wishing you all the best on your new journey and sending you lots of love and hugs.

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5 things you can do whilst waiting for a job

I think we can all agree that this year has been a lot. COVID 19 has brought about so many unimaginable and unfortunate circumstances. One of the main ones being redundancies, resulting in lots of people including new graduates struggling to find work.
I want you to know that if you find yourself in these unfortunate circumstances, do not let it consume you. I want you to keep going with the job search and something will come for you.

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Why I no longer attach age to achievements

This is something I have been battling with especially as someone who’s very ambitious and loves to plan the way I would like certain things to go. I came to the realisation that a lot of my problems were stemming from the fact that I kept attaching achievements to my age and I will no longer be doing so for my sanity. Point. Blank….

When I was younger, I used to think I’ll do this, do that, and then I’ll be living the life I dreamt of with the perfect job, perfect spouse and maybe 2 or 3 kids running around by a certain age. To be fair, someone’s reality is probably exactly how they pictured it by a certain age as I type but you shouldn’t beat yourself up over it if things don’t go as accordingly for you.

Don’t get me wrong though, I believe It’s good to be ambitious and set certain time related milestones for yourself as it gives you a sense of direction. However, I think it’s also very important to understand that life will take its own course. It may be the course you want it to take or a completely different course but I can promise you life will do its own thing so relax your nerves and keep it moving if things aren’t going the way you want them to by a certain age.

Also, times are now completely different and we are in a completely different era. In our parents’ time, they may have achieved or acquired things a lot earlier than we’re doing and that’s fine. What we all need to understand is that everyone is on a completely different journey so comparing your journey to someone else’s doesn’t even make sense.

Last but not the least, we cannot predict the future. I believe the unprecedented times we’re in shows us that very well. What we can do rather than beating ourselves up when things don’t work out is adjust our plans as life goes on and tailor it to our current circumstances.

I want to end this with you guys on a positive note that as long as you’re actively working towards your goals, you’re bound to achieve them so let’s keep going.

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5 things I have learned in my early 20s

For some reason I always feel really grown and I’m not even sure why that is the case because I’m actually very very young. As the years have gone by, my mindset on a lot of things have changed and I think this is partly due to personal things I’ve experienced. I am very grateful that the lessons learned through these experiences, although harsh, have shaped me to become who I am today.
I will be sharing with you the 5 most important things I have learned in my early 20s…

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Up & down weight loss journey

My weight loss journey began in my second year of university and this was mainly because in my first year, I was eating a lot and very unhealthily to say the least and this led to me gaining over 10 kg in a short space of time. I wanted to just get rid of the small gut I was starting to develop but that journey was an absolute JOKE. I can count on one hand how many times I went to the gym that year. I was doing the opposite of what you’re supposed to do in order to lose weight(eating a lot, drinking, eating at night, takeaways etc) and so I continued to gain more and more weight which started to affect my confidence.

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April & May

Life has been chaotic during these past few months. Some days I wake up full of energy feeling like I’m ready to conquer the world and others, I wake up ready to fight anyone that dares look at me the wrong way. It’s been hard however I understand that I’m literally just going through the motions like most people are. This year and these past couple months have just been an absolute madness. If someone told me they had a vision on the 31st of December that this year was going to take such a turn, I’d have probably laughed in their face(Well joke’s on me now!). In conclusion this has truly been the year of the unexpected and it seems as if nothing is off the table.

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